Have you have struggled with feeling like something is missing from your relationship? Maybe you’ve looked around at other couples who seemed happy and passionate and felt a deep yearning for that type of connection with your partner? Maybe you can't even put your finger on what is missing, but you know something is off?
I got married in my mid 20’s and looking back now, if I am honest, we lacked connection from the very beginning. Very early on I felt like something important was missing. I never felt like we had the passion that I saw in other relationships around me. We didn't spend time connecting with each other, we never went out for date nights, and I felt deep down like my husband didn't love me the way I wished he would.
But I still couldn't explain exactly what was missing. I couldn’t put words to it, and I definitely didn’t know how to ask for what I wanted. I just felt a deep longing inside me, and a sense of loneliness in my relationship.
I read lots of books and purchased some online courses and tried to suggest some things to my husband and he was completely uninterested. He seemed fine with the way it was.
Eventually decided to just let it be. I didn’t want to rock the boat and my life was otherwise good. But after 14 years my husband said he had started a relationship with someone else and wanted a divorce.
Even though our marriage wasn’t great, it was still a big shock and traumatic experience for me. But even as I was in the depths of sadness and anger, literally laying in a heap sobbing on the floor, I felt this little glimmer of hope; "Maybe now I can be free to find the kind of passion and connection that I had been starving for in my marriage."
So that became my mission. I was turning 40 and newly single and I dove into lots of personal growth and self improvement books and podcasts and I happened upon the Erotic Blueprints.
When I took the Blueprint quiz, my results came back as a Sensual Blueprint. I started reading about a Sensual, and I really resonated with ALL of the aspects of the sensual. I finally felt like I had a language to explain to my future partners exactly what I crave and what I need to feel safe and connected.
I am now in a new relationship and the connection and passion is one million times better than I have experienced in the past. The knowledge and skills I have gained have helped me really be able to easily express my needs and desires, and then in turn my partner also very receptive to those needs.
Knowing myself better has helped me more effectively communicate with my partner, and that has created a much better experience for both of us.
If you are feeling like something is missing, the passion is gone, and you’re not sure how to get it back, I can help. I became a Coach because of the transformation I experienced in my life. I believe everyone has a right to this kind of joy, pleasure and satisfaction. I believe if everyone in the world had the kind of sex life they desired, the world would be a MUCH better place.
Pleasure is your birthright! Know your pleasure. Own your pleasure. Live your pleasure!